Thursday, August 15, 2013

1 Effective Way to Frustrate People Who Want to Help You

I got frustrated with someone I really like...really quickly...and I think I learned that I might be just as guilty by doing the same thing to other people.

Recently, I approached someone who tends to provide a lot of things for a lot people...somewhat on a material level, but this person is A-Plus when it comes to finding ways to help themselves be better.

This person is putting on an event in the near future, and he was announcing this to several people.

It occurred to me that it addressed an area I think is important and in an area that I (likely) could contribute something positive.

So I asked how I am able to help.

This person simply said some variation of "spread the word," which is okay...except that I know nearly NOTHING about this upcoming event.

I wanted to endorse him,  but he was not giving me the tools to be able to do it.

Plus, I know that there would be (or should be) many different ways to help in advance of the event...on an operational level.

I don't know whether this was true in this person's case, but it seemed to me that he did not really know how I (or anyone else) really could help him.

I looked at a few different places in my life and analyzed times when I got a lot of things done...and times where I worked really hard...but simply "felt done" without really getting anything accomplished.

This is sort of connected with goals, but here is an important extension.

When you....
(a) know WHAT you want...AND...
(b) know HOW people can help you get what you want....

...then you can build an army of willing--if not devoted and passionate--followers to help you meet your cause.

Do you know anyone who seems to know what they want...but not understand how to ask for that help they need?  (Are you catching yourself doing this?)

To a brighter, more productive, and less frustrating future...

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